When you surrender, the problem ceases to exist. Try to solve it,or conquer it, and you only set up more resistance. I am very certain now that, as I said therein, if I truly become what I wish to be, the burden will fall away. The most difficult thing to admit, and to realize with one’s whole being, is that you alone control nothing.
—Henry Miller, A Literate Passion: Letters of Anais Nin & Henry Miller, 1932-1953. Mariner Books,1989